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Gender equality using naughty words


I’ve discovered and read this interesting quote on a feminist website. “No woman is beholden to her husband or any other man simply by virtue of being a woman.” Okay I say in response ~ what a lot of shit. Oops! Used a naughty word. Of course woman is bound to a man due to the word itself. Woman actually means wife of man and it is a possessive noun. Vef is a liberal noun, so reverse situation is true.

Vef is about gender equality which, can easily be achieved by using correct language. Vef is not just a word for adult female persons. Vef is also good for males as it encourages the concept of fair play.

How important is gender difference to us? What are the first words commonly spoken immediately after the birth of a baby?

Gender is typically used with reference to social and cultural differences and not biological ones. We ask is it a boy or girl when a new baby is born. I accept girl and boy as being almost equal childhood terms, however I certainly do not regard the words man and woman as being equitable. Notice that woman usually follows man in a sentence, this is because they are not harmonious descriptions of both sexes. Woman gives the impression of belonging to man, whereas Vef is certainly a word that belongs to her own self.

Gender equality is the absence of discrimination on the basis of a person’s sex in opportunities, the allocation of resources and benefits, or access to services. (Link)

Woman is an obsolete word that has many negative connotations and should be replaced. Vef is getting it right with language and is the ideal word to do this. Vef is a priority if gender equality is to be taken seriously.

Bye, Vef


Song lyrics to melt your heart


Hello. I’m giving a lot of thought to the issue of social justice and how it relates to gender equality. Girls are a long way behind boys in some countries, in fact many girls never go to school or earn a descent living. Can a word vef put them in front or not? Perhaps I’m infatuated with the letter f .. Haha! I write on this blog in an attempt to educate myself about how language can help solve the problem. I’m always reading books and finding unusual words. So it’s wee small hours of the night and I’ve been hard at work trying to get everything organized before going to sleep. Listening to music is one of my greatest pleasures and I often dig out old classics. Wow! These song lyrics by The Cranberries will positively melt your heart and it goes like this.


If you, if you could return, don’t let it burn, don’t let it fade.

I’m sure I’m not being rude, but it’s just your attitude,
It’s tearing me apart, It’s ruining everything.

I swore, I swore I would be true, and honey, so did you.
So why were you holding her hand? Is that the way we stand?
Were you lying all the time? Was it just a game to you?

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Oh, I thought the world of you.
I thought nothing could go wrong,
But I was wrong. I was wrong.
If you, if you could get by, trying not to lie,
Things wouldn’t be so confused and I wouldn’t feel so used,
But you always really knew, I just wanna be with you.

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

And I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Song is from the Album – Everybody else is doing it so why can’t we (1992).

Okay! Creative writing by, Vef

YouTube video: The Cranberries – Linger


She’s up above the world so high


Vef (Venus flower) has resumed posting on blog after a long break. I’m in the mood for a song and what better way is there to uplift my spirits at this time of year?

Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

When the blazing sun is gone,
When there’s nothing she shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, through the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

In the dark blue sky so deep
Through my curtains often peep
For you never close your eyes
Til the morning sun does rise
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are

Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are.

So this nursery rhyme was originally a poem written by English poet and novelist Jane Taylor (1783-1824) in 1806 at the age of 23. Apparently it is sung to the tune of the French melody “Ah! vous dirais-je, Maman”, which was published in 1761 and later arranged by Mozart for a famous set of variations. You can watch a video clip of it here: Rhymes for the Nursery

I’ve made a small alteration to these lyrics and changed ‘he to she’ as is proper with gender equality. I get so annoyed when everything in this world seems to be about him and not her. Grrr!

Creative writing by, Vef


Vef is moving: So please follow

Art by Shirley Reade

Hello. Well after months of pondering I’ve decided to combine my WordPress blogs into one website. It hasn’t been easy to make this choice as I love both of these blogs and their personal written content. What I am going to do is this. In an hour or two I will buy site re-direct and give it a go. Oh! It’s a lot of work but I’m ready to give this a good try. My other blog is taking shape and I can easily move pictures and words. Many of you already follow both blogs and I’m sure it will be for the best if I only have one blog to manage in future. Can I now say thanks to everyone one of you, this is a wonderful trip and the journey is not yet over. I’ve enjoyed the many comments and likes. I’m making a list of all blogs that follow this blog and will be following them back shortly. I recently upgraded to a premium theme and last month Trademark approval was granted. I’d be wise to integrate my limited time and resources in the one place. It will be a true delight in anyone’s language to see you over at my other blog when the move is complete, or even before.
Thanks, Vef


Sexualization of girls in media is a no-no


Apologies my WordPress blog posts are occasional due to contracting a viral infection. Well actually I need to slow down a bit so I can research my articles properly. That said I’m very upset by the way girls are often portrayed as sex objects in the media. I’ve just completed a week of study into the topic of sexualization of girls and I have concluded that there is a general lack of action regarding this serious problem. It’s a vicious circle and girls are groomed from a young age to take part in seemingly innocent photo opportunities. This to me is a sexual no-no and it’s a vast global industry fuelled in large part by corporate greed, social media and digital technology. The exact definition of no-no is something that should not be done or is against the rules. Sexualization of girls in media is a disturbing and often unnoticed modern-day trend. There’s a difference between owning your sexuality and being sexualized. It’s a fact that girls are faced with everyday. Sexualization of girls in media is forbidden or not advisable, as because of being improper or unsafe.

Magazines, television, video games and music videos all have a harmful effect, a task force from the American Psychological Association has reported. The proliferation of sexualized images of young girls in advertising, merchandising and media is harming girls’ self-image and healthy development. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression are the most common mental health problems in girls. The Report of The American Psychological Association (APA) Task Force on The Sexualization of Girls , issued in 2007, points out the connection between these problems and the sexualization of girls. The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that the proliferation of sexual images of girls in the media is harming their self-image and development. “We have ample evidence to conclude that sexualization has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, and healthy sexual development,” said Dr Eileen Zurbriggen, Chair of the APA Task Force. “The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” she said. The (APA) task force was set up after mounting public concern about the sexualization of young girls. Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.

The Sexualization of Girls and Mental Health Problems: Is There a Connection?

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when;

1. a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics.
2. a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy.
3. a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making.
4. sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present as any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children.

Images of sexualized girls are becoming increasingly common in advertising and marketing material. Girls who seem aged 12 years and under are dressed, posed and made up in the same way as sexy adult models. “Corporate pedophilia” is a metaphor used to describe advertising and marketing that sexualizes girls in these ways.

Study Shows TV’s Increased Sexual Exploitation of Teen Girls

So how important is language in our acceptance of girls as sex objects? Well as far as I’m concerned it’s right up there as a primary cause. Woman is the problem because it’s an out-dated word that gives perceived ownership of girls to men. I’m reminded of the lyrics of a popular song by Neil Diamond: “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon. Soon you’ll need a man.” Yuck! Woman is a man’s word and thus gives rise to a man’s world. Gender possessive references like this to girls are found in all areas of our society. The need is urgent and gender correct terms included in our vocabulary are a big part of the solution. Vef needs to be embraced as the proper word to describe an adult female person. Oh yes! Positive change will take a long time but it must be done for the sake of both sexes. Vef Foundation is actively encouraging the notion of gender equality for boys and girls. Would you like to participate in this discussion and if so I urge you to leave a comment. Thanks.

Bye, Vef


Believe in the power of your own wings


Recently I came across a proverb that I’m rather fond and here it is. To say I’m fond of this adage means that I don’t like it? Well it’s good but I’m not madly in love with it. Oh yes! I’m also fond of nature photography.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is, not on the strength of the branch, but on the power of her own wings. So the motto is always believe in yourself.”

I’ve worked very hard on my word project for almost ten years. It’s tough going and for all my efforts nothing much has happened apart from a lot of time and money invested. I guess that’s just the way it is with many ambitious endeavours. Personal feelings and emotions often slow me down. Blogging is one way of learning how to piece things together and gain knowledge of English language.

I’d write more in posts about gender equality however I’m not sure if anyone is reading. There’s plenty of good material about this subject on Vef Foundation home page.

Bye, Vef


Delicious is anything that pleases my senses


I’d have to say that delicious is certainly a favourite word and it’s always coming to mind. In fact anything pleasing to the senses can be described as delicious especially if it allures. Delicious is the name of a type of apple, attested from 1903, first grown by Jesse Hiatt of Iowa, U.S.A. I do like the notion of delicious – is something that tastes or smells really good or is enjoyable.

Origin & History
The English word delicious comes from the Old French delicieus.
Delicious circa.1300 from Old French. delicieus. From Classical Latin. deliciosus “delicious, delicate. From Latin. delicia (pl. deliciæ) “a delight,” from delicere “to allure, entice,” from de- “away” + lacere “lure, deceive.

delectable, delightful, luscious, pleasant-tasting, pleasing, scrumptious, tasty, toothsome, yummy.

Derived terms
deliciously, deliciousness.

Colloquial shortening


Here’s a simple recipe for: Raspberry cupcakes with cream filling


2 cups (250g) self-raising flour
250g unsalted butter
4 large eggs
1 cup (250g) sugar
2 tablespoons milk
½ cup (60g) ground almonds
Finely grated zest of 1 orange
1 punnet raspberries

Cream cheese icing

250g Mascarpone (Italian cream cheese)
150g soft butter
1 cup (150g) icing sugar
1 tablespoon lemon juice

Oops! Suddenly have an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach because I need food.

Bon appetit, Vef


Good Book Writers Never Give Up


I’ve certainly got no great expectations about having a book published anytime soon. I do tend to spend a lot of my precious waking life conducting online research into the subjects of book writing and self publishing. Often feel like giving up on the dream to be seen in print. I’m probably not what’s commonly known as a talented writer, in fact I struggle to type legible sentences. My dumb writing usually contains a lot of word clangers. Yep! Used a cliché in a post last week only to learn that it wasn’t a fantastic idea – took it out. Honestly I prefer to play with words and often decide to place a word in a verse when it suits my whim. Oh! I truly enjoy writing on impulse, this is a lazy way of expression, rather than being too concerned about grammatical correctness. Undertook French language studies at high school and the only word I can remember with any clarity is bonjour. It translates to good morning or hello in English. Why am I persevering with this book notion if I can’t write for nuts? Guess I’ll stick to blogging, no one cares too much if I get it all wrong. Ha!Ha!

Stumbled upon this article by Australian writer Ian Irvine while browsing and me thinks it’s certainly worth a good read. Oops! Don’t cry before you reach the end like I did. Snipped a bit from the page to add to this post and a link.
The picture used here is amazing but I don’t know who the owner is to give credit. Images on this blog are regularly found on the Internet and permission to post is sort so as not to infringe copyright. The artist who created image used on top of this page has now contacted me and I am delighted to give credit and a link which applies to this lovely picture.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a co-author scenario, just not sure how this would work in practice? I suppose many good book writers never give up on being published. If you are interested this project my email address is on Vef Foundation contact page. Recently looked up the word clanger and it means a bad or embarrassing mistake. Okay so I can’t see clearly enough to proof read this text any further. BooHoo! It’s been another sleepless night and I’m needing a frightfully long snooze.

Creative writing by, Vef
Image © Alaya Gadeh and Elizabeth May


Speak another word instead of woman


Hello. This word vef came to mind a long time ago and now it has become a part of my vocabulary. As a matter of fact I have a general aversion to using woman as a term. When I have thoughts (often) my brain knowingly converts woman to vef and when I read the same process occurs. Listening to radio or watching television are unpleasant experiences for me due to my dislike of the ugly word woman. Can’t take it anymore. Grrr. Oops! Did I offend anyone? Well I’ve got to tell you that back in 1980s I published a series of printed journals with woman in the title. I sort of knew then what I know now and that woman just wasn’t quite right. It doesn’t sit correctly with my notion of proper language in the context of gender equality.

Woman derives from an old English word wifman and means man + wife. Actually woman implies ‘of man’ and it is a possessive noun that belongs only to man. Woman is obsolete and has passed its use by date. Vef belongs to herself and this present-day word replaces woman. Vaf (plural) belong to themselves and this word takes the place of women. I’ve borrowed a passage from an Agatha Christie novel and typed vef instead of woman. So please enjoy reading about feminism in a story the next time you pick up a good book.
Oh yes! I can speak another word called vef and do so on a daily basis. Ha!Ha!

Creative writing by, Vef